Tips For Getting Your Woman To Agree To A Threesome

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How To Attract A Woman

     I should have titled this post "How Not To Be A Total Douchebag", or "How Not To Turn A Woman Into  A Lesbian".  It's gotten bad---real bad.  What we have here, people, is an epidemic of retarded men who have no idea how to act and who act as if they've had no home training whatsoever.  I sit here with my glass of Sailor Jerry rum ( by the way, I tried to put a text ad here for Sailor Jerry rum in, but it wouldn't work---that's how much I love it---try it, mix it with Coke, it tastes like Dr. Pepper, and it's 92 proof).  I had to get a buzz and relax, that's how worked up I get about this subject.  I get angry.  I blame both feminism and deadbeat dads.

      I blame feminism because it backfired.  The statistics I've read cite that 12% of feminists are lesbian.  I think that number is extremely low---they polled just over 8,000 feminists.  Most of the feminists in high positions in feminist organizations such as The National Organization For Women (NOW), are in fact lesbian---they don't have to deal with men on a romantic basis.  I don't mind admitting it, I wanted to have my cake and eat it too. I wanted men to let me have equal employment rights, not beat me, not sexually harass me, but I still wanted them to open the car door for me, pay the tab when they ask me out on a date, and call me to ask me out on a date.  I don't want to call a man---he calls me to ask me out, if we agree to dutch, that's fine, other than that, if you ask me out---you pay, and for God's sake, open the car door for me---and furthermore, when in a party of three or more---I'm gonna sit in the goddamned front seat.  Yes, I want equal rights as a human being, but if you want to have sex with me, you are going to live up to certain standards of how a man treats a lady ( and by the way, for all the women reading this---if you want a man to treat you like a lady, you damn sure have to act like one--in public anyway...).  I'm not very old, but I guess I still hold certain old-fashioned tenets very dear----you can knock that if you want, but the bottom line is: it can get you laid.


     I blame deadbeat dads as well.  In the U.S, we live in a society with a percentage as high as 80% of male youths that feel estranged from their fathers.  These young men are not being taught how to relate to women, and not being taught by example of how to treat women in a way that not only benefits the women, but the young men in question. In situations where the father is completely absent (40%), these young men are not being taught how to be men.  What they do learn is being taught by the mothers, or by stepfathers, whom they usually have little to no bond with emotionally. Among certain surviving tribal customs, once the male youth reaches a certain age, he is taken from his mother, often in a mock abduction/murder. ritual, in which he is then whisked off with his father and/or many men from the tribe to learn to be a man, and learn a man's role in his society.  The tribal perspective during this ritual is that the boy dies, but yet, the man is born in his place.  This may, at first glance, seem somewhat brutal.  However, when asked about this ritual, most men will say that this had been the single most transformative and beneficial experience of their lives.  While we, in our society, cannot go to this extreme,  I hope I am making a point as to the benefits of having a strong male role model in a young male's life.


 With all this sociological mumbo-jumbo being said, I will proceed here to tell you what I have gleaned from my years in dealing with men.  I feel I am more than qualified to advise on the subject.  I spent more than ten years as an exotic dancer, and dealt with men of every shape, size and variety.  Many will claim that this only gives a certain "scummier" cross-section of men for the basis of my opinions.  I disagree.  I dealt with all men: rich men, poor men, married men, single men, young men, old men, hetero men, in-the-closet gay men, out of the closet gay men ( a strip club is a great place to meet horny, vulnerable straight guys---so I've been told), men of religious faith even.  Sex and sexual enticement are universal needs, therefore, I feel that the basis for my opinions are in fact, universal.


     1.  MANNERS ARE NOT OLD-FASHIONED, THEY'RE JUST PLAIN SEXY
    Yes, manners are not old-fashioned, they're just plain sexy.  You don't have to be weak or unmanly to use manners with a woman.  Talk to her like a lady, even if she isn't.  Even if she's acting like a bitch or talking like a sailor, hold yourself to this standard.  Use this rule always with women. even if you don't plan on fucking them.  Your reputation will precede you eventually.  Open her car door, pull her chair out, pay for her drink, pay the tab at dinner if you asked her out.  Always speak to her with respect---I should pause here to note that if she likes you to call her a "dirty, slutty whore" when you're fucking her, by all means, oblige her--but any other time, hold to the rule. Don't curse alot or talk to her as if you are in the locker room. I should also pause here to state that you should restrict certain behaviors you do with "the boys" around women.  If you want to light your farts on fire, by all means, do so, but not when you are within 500 yards of any woman!!!  Although some women hold higher standards than others,  it's still gross and off-putting to any woman---even if she doesn't show it.

     2.  HAVE SOME BALLS!
     Even if you feel very insecure by something she's done or said, for God's sake, don't show it.  I can't tell you how bad it grosses me out for a guy to say something even remotely in the realm of,  "Do you really like me, or are you just playing me?" or "Did you really cum, or were you just faking it?" or "Do you wanna fuck that guy I saw you talking to?".  First of all, there's no point whatsoever to any of those questions.  If she's playing you, she was faking it, or she wants to fuck the other guy, chances are she's not going to tell you... so don't even bother.  Confidence is a huge aphrodisiac.  It can overcome many odds that would have you at home by yourself whacking off in front of the computer otherwise.  There was one of my boyfriends in particular who was not very physically attractive.  He had red hair, freckles, an untoned, pale,squishy body, not to mention a very small penis.  When I showed my friends a picture of him, they were appalled....until they met him.  After they met him, they all loved him, and I could tell a few were sexually attracted to him.  The reason was his confidence and charm.  This can make up for alot.  When I say 'confidence' I certainly don't mean for you to be an arrogant, ego-maniacal dickhead---there's a middle ground there.  Don't be a pussy, but don't be an arrogant prick either.

      3. IF YOU WANT A WOMAN, BE SEEN IN THE COMPANY OF OTHER WOMEN.
     You cannot underestimate the power of this tip alone.  Women are possessive creatures.  If they see you with other women they are going to at least believe you are tolerable.  Besides that, there are a huge amount of women who get off on taking the attention from other women and shifting the balance in their direction.  In their mind, not only do you like them and find them attractive, you like them more than the other woman and find them more attractive than the other woman.  The ideal scenario would be to go out with one or two attractive female friends, have fun with them.  Make sure the target of your seduction sees you with them, and then move in for the kill.  Strike up a conversation,  flirt (use your manners!). Don't drool over her or tell her over and over agin how hot she is..ad nauseum. When she asks you about the other girl/s ( and she will if she saw you and if she's interested), simply say that you are good friends and invite her to your table.  It should be easy from that point on.

     4. DRESS WELL.
    Many people will give this same advice, but they make it seem as if you have to be wearing a suit and tie to get a woman.  If you're a punk---be a punk!  If you're a thug---be a thug!  But, dress well for whatever your style is.  There's no reason you can't have nice looking clothes for whatever your style or budget, or smell nice, or have well kept facial hair.  And it's not because all women are gold-diggers (although some are, and this rule will definitely help you where those particular women are concerned) and are looking for these cues.  If you look nice and stand out from the crowd, you will get noticed.  If you look like a bum or conduct yourself like a bum, you're going to get treated as such.

     5. BECOME THE PURSUED.
     This is tricky, but put yourself in an attractive woman's place.  You go out and within the first hour, you've got 50 guys that come up to you and they all, more or less, are coming at you with the same approach, "You are sooo HOT!!", "You are the hottest girl here!", "Can I buy you a drink?".  Now what if there's a guy that doesn't do that right from the start?  He strikes up a conversation, he's polite, he's confident, but he hasn't once hit on you, told you how hot you are, or offered to buy you a drink.  What's going on?  He talks to you a few more minutes AND THEN HE POLITELY LEAVES!!  He walks off, still without bothering to verify that you are the most beautiful creature in the place and that he is overcome by uncontrollable lust just by merely being in your presence.  What reaction do you think this is going to produce?  Women are driven by the need for attention and approval.  Usually this is no problem for them.  When they don't get this from an otherwise qualified man, this creates an unsatisfied need.  Back to the scenario, once he walks away, if you are woman you are not going to be able to get this off your mind.  Doesn't he think you are beautiful?  Was it something you did?  Something you said?  Does your ass look fat in these jeans?  After some time, he finally returns.  By this time you are intrigued.  He has created a need for attention and approval and it is your instinct at this point to pursue that need.  By this time, it is the woman who will initiate flirtatious behavior. Let her, and respond in kind, taking care to keep control of the situation and not overdo it.  Be an alpha male---stay in control and let her come to you.  Of course, eventually, you will want to give her the approval and attention she craves but not too soon, only after she's already hooked, and not all at once---in small increments.  The rest should be a piece of cake.

  I hope these tips are helpful.  I must say, in my experience, they honestly do work.  Practice makes perfect!As always, let me know how it works out.  I've been told that comments aren't working on my blog so I'm posting my email in the meantime.  Keep in touch.  Hope everyone had a sexy New Year!!

The Sexual Resolution

     Every year, we make resolutions for the same old things, our health, our finances, our attitudes...I've never heard anyone make a New Year's resolution to improve their sex life, but let's face it sex is a big part of most people's lives.

     When our sex life is great, we are more contented and happy and more able to face challenges that we are presented with.  Ever heard anyone tell who's grumpy that they need to get laid?  They may very well be on to something.  Invigorating, awesome sexual exertion causes the release of endorphins in the brain, which causes a giddy, or contented feeling.  But the contented feeling doesn't just go away within a few minutes.  Great sex can actually adjust the chemicals in your brain, which can have many benefits, such as stress reduction, fighting off depression, adapting to difficult situations more easily and handling problems more efficiently...and it can last for hours or even days.

   While you're listing resolutions for the other areas in your life, why not make a resolution to do something everyday with the intention of improving your sex life.  Do things that will make you feel sexier: lose weight, get a sexy haircut, dress up more.  Commit to trying new things: try phone sex, try role-play, try domination or submission.  It's not important that you like these things or plan on making them a normal part of your sex life. What's important is that you've had a new experience.  Be adventurous!  You just may find that you like doing something you previously never dreamed you would.  And what the hell, at least this resolution won't be a boring tedious chore.  I guarantee you'll have fun sticking to this resolution.  Happy New Year!!!

On Letting Yourself Go...

         I'm doing this post by request, but I feel that it's a very relevant topic, to both men and women.  I've been guilty of it.  I'm sure many men and women have been guilty of it...letting yourself go.  I've been asked whether it was a pro or a con as far as relationships go.  The only truthful answer is " both".  When you start a relationship with someone, you want to look your best, show the best side of yourself that you possibly can.  You like this person, care about their opinions.  If they saw you at your worst, that may affect their opinion of you.  If they saw you without your makeup on or your legs shaved, they may not think of you as the enchantress you're trying to portray in order to secure their love.  Wearing makeup or shaving your legs. or face, or bleaching your mustache, or not farting or burping in front of your partner...all those things are not our natural state of being.  They are all part of a human mating ritual we do to ensure procreation and make ourselves more attractive to the opposite sex.

     When we let down our guard and cease doing these things, it is actually a sign of trust.  "I trust you to see me as I am, and love me anyway.".  In all actuality, that is a gift.  However, when you let yourself gain weight to an unhealthy degree, or cease doing thing that consist of taking care of 'you', and pampering yourself, this is where you should draw the line.

     In my last post, I made a comment regarding men "getting lazy", once they have us.  Well, we can be guilty of the same.  I know I have.  When I met my boyfriend,  I wore a different set of lingerie to bed every night, complete with heels and stockings.  Once I was sufficiently sure he wasn't going to leave me if my bra and panties didn't match, I stopped worrying about it.  If I forgot to shave, or color my roots...or if I went to bed in a mu-mu...no big deal.  He still loves me right?  Yeah,  he still loved me, but he was disenchanted with me.  He made comments that I would get dressed up to go out, but never just for him.  And so ensued a huge argument: He had "gained weight" and made no attempt to lose it, why was he picking on me?

     Eventually, we stopped arguing about it, but not much changed.  He kept the weight, I continued wearing the mu-mu, or sweatpants or whatever...then we ended up breaking up.  To some, it may not have seemed like the break up was directly related, but after much thought, I came to the conclusion that the fact that we had both gotten "too comfortable", had everything to do with it.  All the mystery had gone.  The veil had been lifted and what lay beyond was an overweight, burly faced, burping, farting douchebag and a nagging, bitching, mu-mu wearing, hairy-legged hag.  Appealing?  Not really.

  You can knock it all you want, but it's a proven fact that attractive people get all the perks.  Attractive people are more likely to get certain jobs, and more likely to get promotions within those jobs.  They are more likely to have better relationships with attractive people, who are more likely to have better paying jobs, which ensures a higher standard of living... are you beginning to see the trend here?  Most men state that they would be more likely to try harder to please an attractive person in a relationship, than an unattractive person, and vice versa with women.  I don't mean to say that unless you look like Angelina Jolie, and your hubby looks like Brad Pitt, that you are destined to be unhappy.  People are attracted to different 'types' of people.  You don't have to have Vogue or GQ beating down your door to be considered attractive.  But your significant other apparently found you attractive when you met.  It's when this standard deviates from the original by a large amount, that it becomes a problem.

     Regardless of what the other person in the relationship thinks of you, you owe it to yourself to take care of yourself and be attractive----BECAUSE YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU LOOK BETTER.  Ask anyone who knows you well to evaluate your behavior when you are dressed up or generally feeling hot, as opposed to your behavior when you're bumming around the house in an over-sized T-shirt, sweatpants, unshaven legs, no make-up, with roots showing.  I can guarantee there's a difference there.

  So, with no further ado, make a resolution for 2010 that you owe it to yourself and your relationship that you are determined to be HOT this coming year..no matter what!!  Pamper yourself, you deserve it!  Get up each morning, shave your legs, do your hair and makeup, put a hot outfit on.  You'll be ready for anything life throws at you!  Have a great 2010!!!

How To Keep A Man Interested

       I have been fielding questions all day from women wanting sex advice.  About 20% wanted advice about anal---I sent those over to Violet at The Harlot's Progress, cause she's got the goods on that. 10% had miscellaneous questions...but a whopping 70% of the questions I answered today went something like this:


     "Help!!  I don't think my man is cheating on me, but he doesn't act interested anymore and he won't have sex with me!"


     In my experience, this is such an easy thing to fix.  And if what I'm about to tell you doesn't work, more often than not (...and whether you'd like to admit it or not), there's usually a bigger problem.  If you want to WIN the game, you have to jump in and PLAY the game, and sometimes (let's admit it), love is a game.  Now if you're reading this post, I'm going to go ahead and make the assumption that you've done all the things most women would do: You've talked to him about it.  You've bitched at him about it.  You've probably gotten all trussed up in your best slutwear and thrown yourself at him.  It probably didn't work, and if it did, it probably felt like a pity fuck, and it probably didn't change the situation as a whole.

     On a psychological level, you have to understand that men are by nature, hunters.  They are hardwired for the chase.  He's already caught you at this point.  He knows that.  And once they know that, sometimes they tend to be a little bit lazy.  He's got you----no effort required anymore.  He has gotten comfortable and he's taking it for granted that you'll be ready whenever he decides he wants you.  At this point, he's in a rut.  You have to nudge him out of it.  You have to rattle his cage a little bit.

     Before I give you the steps to take, I'm going to make it crystal, Windex clear here that there is one cardinal rule you CANNOT break: UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES DURING THIS PROCESS ARE YOU TO BRING UP SEX, THROW YOURSELF AT HIM OR TRY TO SEDUCE HIM IN ANY WAY.  HE HAS TO COME TO YOU.


     That being said, the first thing you need to do is change your appearance.  It can be a subtle change or a dramatic one--as long as it's something he'll notice.  Cut your hair differently.  Color it differently.  If you don't usually wear makeup, start wearing it.  If you do wear makeup, change it up a bit.  Wear clothes you wouldn't normally wear.  It doesn't matter.  Just make sure it looks hot and make sure it's something he'll notice.

     Next, start doing thing outside of your normal routine.  Go out with the girls---and look hot doing it.  Go to the movies without him---but look hot doing it.  Hell, go to the library or church even---but make sure it's outside the norm for you and for the love of Pete...that's right.. MAKE SURE YOU LOOK 
HOT DOING IT!!  I don't want you to actually do anything wrong, I just want you to pique his curiosity and his interest.  Make him wonder.

    Now you've got to start being a little inaccessible.  These things, combined, will put him back into "chase mode", which is exactly where you want him.  When he calls, don't answer.  Call him back, but make him wait awhile before you do.  Be "busy" sometimes.  Again, make him wonder.  Don't be the girl who sits around whining that her man isn't interested.  Don't even look like it's on your mind.  You're a precious commodity with other stuff to do.  Don't be bitchy if he asks you about it.  Be friendly and casually tell him "Oh sorry,  I was busy doing such-and-such."

     Finally, you've got to flirt with him.  This one's tricky for some women because they don't know how to flirt effectively.  REMEMBER THE CARDINAL RULE HERE!!!  I do not mean try to seduce him---don't do anything slutty or overly suggestive.  For this to work, it can't be your idea, it can't be initiated by you, and you can't force it or be obvious.  Smile at him, be witty, tease him.  Think of how you flirted with him when you just met him.  This is key.  Some of the other steps, if not combined with this one might lead him to believe that you're cheating, or being dishonest in some way.  This will let him know you still want him, BUT HE"S GOT TO CHASE YOU!

     If you combine all these steps, before too long, he should be putty in your hands.  Enjoy!!! And no matter what the result, LET ME KNOW HOW IT WORKED OUT!!!  I love helping and giving advice.  Just let me know what you need help with.




    


     

Can You Beat This?

  

      Last night I finally had some great sex after a small 3 day dry spell.  There was lots of dirty talk ( mostly from me---I felt like a dirty girl!).  It was probably because I had been over at The Harlot's Progress reading her stuff for about an hour---she's got some good stuff over there.  Anyway I came...HARD, and he was getting close.  He asked me where I wanted it, and like the dirty girl I am, I replied "My mouth, my face..ALL OVER ME!! NOW!!".  He obliged.  He came alot.  It ended up in my mouth, my face, the top of my head, and curiously enough, 4 1/2 feet away on the alarm clock (we measured).  I didn't know it could go that far!!  I thought that was rather awesome of him....Can anyone beat that?