"Help!! I don't think my man is cheating on me, but he doesn't act interested anymore and he won't have sex with me!"
In my experience, this is such an easy thing to fix. And if what I'm about to tell you doesn't work, more often than not (...and whether you'd like to admit it or not), there's usually a bigger problem. If you want to WIN the game, you have to jump in and PLAY the game, and sometimes (let's admit it), love is a game. Now if you're reading this post, I'm going to go ahead and make the assumption that you've done all the things most women would do: You've talked to him about it. You've bitched at him about it. You've probably gotten all trussed up in your best slutwear and thrown yourself at him. It probably didn't work, and if it did, it probably felt like a pity fuck, and it probably didn't change the situation as a whole.
On a psychological level, you have to understand that men are by nature, hunters. They are hardwired for the chase. He's already caught you at this point. He knows that. And once they know that, sometimes they tend to be a little bit lazy. He's got you----no effort required anymore. He has gotten comfortable and he's taking it for granted that you'll be ready whenever he decides he wants you. At this point, he's in a rut. You have to nudge him out of it. You have to rattle his cage a little bit.
Before I give you the steps to take, I'm going to make it crystal, Windex clear here that there is one cardinal rule you CANNOT break: UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES DURING THIS PROCESS ARE YOU TO BRING UP SEX, THROW YOURSELF AT HIM OR TRY TO SEDUCE HIM IN ANY WAY. HE HAS TO COME TO YOU.
That being said, the first thing you need to do is change your appearance. It can be a subtle change or a dramatic one--as long as it's something he'll notice. Cut your hair differently. Color it differently. If you don't usually wear makeup, start wearing it. If you do wear makeup, change it up a bit. Wear clothes you wouldn't normally wear. It doesn't matter. Just make sure it looks hot and make sure it's something he'll notice.
Next, start doing thing outside of your normal routine. Go out with the girls---and look hot doing it. Go to the movies without him---but look hot doing it. Hell, go to the library or church even---but make sure it's outside the norm for you and for the love of Pete...that's right.. MAKE SURE YOU LOOK
HOT DOING IT!! I don't want you to actually do anything wrong, I just want you to pique his curiosity and his interest. Make him wonder.
Now you've got to start being a little inaccessible. These things, combined, will put him back into "chase mode", which is exactly where you want him. When he calls, don't answer. Call him back, but make him wait awhile before you do. Be "busy" sometimes. Again, make him wonder. Don't be the girl who sits around whining that her man isn't interested. Don't even look like it's on your mind. You're a precious commodity with other stuff to do. Don't be bitchy if he asks you about it. Be friendly and casually tell him "Oh sorry, I was busy doing such-and-such."
Finally, you've got to flirt with him. This one's tricky for some women because they don't know how to flirt effectively. REMEMBER THE CARDINAL RULE HERE!!! I do not mean try to seduce him---don't do anything slutty or overly suggestive. For this to work, it can't be your idea, it can't be initiated by you, and you can't force it or be obvious. Smile at him, be witty, tease him. Think of how you flirted with him when you just met him. This is key. Some of the other steps, if not combined with this one might lead him to believe that you're cheating, or being dishonest in some way. This will let him know you still want him, BUT HE"S GOT TO CHASE YOU!
If you combine all these steps, before too long, he should be putty in your hands. Enjoy!!! And no matter what the result, LET ME KNOW HOW IT WORKED OUT!!! I love helping and giving advice. Just let me know what you need help with.
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